On our third date, he told me he had sex with hundreds of prostitutes…while he was married. You might be picturing a toothless unemployable criminal, but he was a charming, intelligent, attractive, and successful lawyer. I had fallen hard for him in a short time period. His confession blindsided me. I immediately wondered the obvious — why would you admit that to someone you are dating unless you were in self-sabotage mode? I asked a few friends. One friend's reply was enligh
Winston Churchill once said, “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” What is your attitude—right now, at this moment—toward your spouse? Your kids? Your supervisor? Your employee? Toward life in general? Are you feeling . . . like a victim or a victor? ungrateful or appreciative? bitter or tender? angry or joyful? betrayed or beloved? critical or congratulatory? negative or positive? pessimistic or hopeful? resentful or content? ON A DATE THIS WEEKEND??? 🛑
Do you worry much? One of the things I see a lot in my coaching practice is worry about relationship decisions and relationship mistakes from the past. Many of the women I talk to worry they’ve made the wrong choices. Stayed in the wrong relationship too long. Let go of the wrong guy. Put off looking for Mr. Right until it was too late. They’re worried they’re going to pay a steep price for what they’ve done. They don’t know if they’ll ever get the love they desire, and it’s
You’d think it would be so easy. If someone texts you, text them back.
If someone calls you, call them back.
If someone DMs you, message them back. So why, then, have so few men got the message? Angelika was sure her new love interest was ignoring her. She’d left him a number of messages on Facebook, and he never replied. Lola wrote lovely texts to her guy, full of exclamation points and emojis, and all she ever got back were an “ok” or “sure” or “c u then.” Callie would call
The first rule when it comes to texting women is to always be straightforward.
Here’s a simple truth: From the moment you exchanged numbers with her, she already knew you wanted to hang out and have a good time. If you decide to wait two days or a week before contacting her, thinking she’ll be filled with excitement when she hears from you, you’re simply delaying the inevitable. Besides, from the time you got her contact info to the time you eventually contact her, she would
Each human being is hardwired to find certain traits attractive. In our youth, those things are different — they’re part of evolution, really. Science teaches us that our reptilian brains want us to seek out partners for reproduction, searching for the mate who will help us make more replicas of ourselves. But over time, those qualities are less necessary and, also over time, often less attractive. A well-regarded study on mate value from Mexico State University notes that wo
The lipstick, the eyeliner, the blush, the mascara, the foundation, the eyeshadow, the eyebrow pencil, the concealer, the primer, the bronzer, the contour, the highlights, the works. Did I miss anything? Makeup is so complicated. There are just too many things to keep track of. It’s so hard having to be a woman. You have to remember a lot of this stuff and your efforts don’t always pay off. So many girls will go overboard with their makeup to the point that men will think it’
Attraction is a very tricky thing. Yes, there might be certain standards of attractiveness that are present the world over. However, it’s always a “to each his own” kind of situation. We all have our own specific tastes and preferences. We aren’t always going to like the same things. And that’s okay. We are all individual human beings with our own personal likes and dislikes. That’s why even though you might like a particular person, not everyone you know is going to like tha
Keen to meet someone this summer? Here are some tried and tested ways where you can be out and about enjoying the amazing weather and also meet men… 1. Find a dog to walk Take a friends dog for a walk in the local park, good times to go include lunchtimes, after work or on the weekend. Then, while walking your dog, smile at men as you pass by. People (men included) are more willing to stop to talk to someone who has an attractive (make sure it’s friendly, too) puppy with them
Summer is an amazing time for dating, everyone is in a good mood and ready to go out and enjoy themselves, how can you make the most of the summer and have a great time dating? 1 Know what you want Is it a relationship? Is it a summer romance? Perhaps you broke up from your long term relationship earlier in the year and you are wanting to get back in the swing of dating and have some fun, particularly if your last relationship wasn’t the best at the end. Whatever you are look
My dear ravishing and dashing singles, How can you tell if a someone online is serious about commitment… And not just another waste of time? I hear from beautiful and successful singles like yourself all the time about people who are immature or try to take advantage of them. These "players" and player-ettte can be rude and overly forward or try to trick you… And this annoys me because not only is this awful and a waste of time to all of these amazing Singles… It gives a bad
I was lucky to grow up with two parents who pushed me and my brothers equally to achieve our goals in life. My father always told me that, in order to be successful, I had to work at things — the second I slacked off or stopped advocating for myself, I’d be surpassed by someone who hadn’t slowed down. So I took that advice and applied it to my entire life: I landed my first job four months before graduating college; I shifted my career focus from beauty to relationships; and
We all know breakups are the worst, but after a while you get sick of being sad and start flipping through Tinder. And then what? The dating scene is terrible enough, but when you’ve been in a relationship for the last year(s) you may not even know how it works anymore and Valérie Duval is a living proof of such experience, please ladies, read 100 dates and a Wedding to find out more and related. Some people go straight into rebound relationships and some feel like they could
There are many people today who have been single for a while or indeed for much of their life, here are some of the most common reasons why they are single... 1 You have a habit of being single Some people are in the habit of being in a relationship – you know those people who always seem to have a boyfriend or girlfriend – they break up with someone, they bounce back, start dating again and the next thing you know they have a new boyfriend. It's not a coincidence that they a
Spring is looking promising... Boris announced lately amazing news to finally be set free and a plan to have our lives back!!! Sooooooo!!!! Happy Spring Dating!!!! It’s such a beautiful time of year with all the lovely spring flowers and daffodils coming out, the sun unveiling itself in full warmth. Spring is a great time of year to be making changes to your love life, so you are ready to be meeting people by the summertime. Here’s 4 ways you can spring clean your love life.
Self-love gives you the courage to walk away Most of us have been in situations where we’ve loved someone enough to work hard at keeping the relationship moving forward and hurdling through all obstacles. Others of us have made the decision to throw in the towel, knowing that loving ourselves is much more important than continuing to deal with a relationship that brings more negative feelings than positive. I’m in the group that threw in the towel. My ex and I had a child tog
These are the games you don’t want to play. Are they in? Or out? Do they want to see me? Or not? Am I wasting my time? Or do I need to hang in there? Let’s be honest, a little game playing goes on at the start of most relationships as you test the water, gauge interest and try to figure out what’s going on. But ongoing mind games can drive you crazy with frustration. Because when the ground beneath you keeps shifting, it can feed an anxiety that never quite goes away. My part
Some red flags dudes may see that you don’t. I’ve often heard the phrase, “It’s so hard to meet guys.” Or similar sentiments from my lovelorn friends. Yet there are so many people looking for love in the same city, town, or small English hamlet. So from where does this belief that it is impossible to meet anyone in the real world arise? Have you ever felt the same way? Sorry to break it to you, but you are mostly likely part of the problem. Without meaning to you’ve sabotaged
Because once you fall in, it’s hard to get out. Wouldn’t it be great if relationships got easier? If, once the sizzle subsided, we just boarded a luxury train that took us on a journey to Happy Ever After. Especially if they served cocktails. 🍹 We all know it doesn’t work that way — far, far from it. That beyond the sizzle is where the “fun” really starts, the terrain gets more challenging (or more boringly predictable) and our relationships truly test us. And sometimes the
We crossed paths frequently in a small, shared gym in a sprawling office building.
Scott was a 37-year-old architect. He was cute, with pronounced, proportional, masculine facial features. He stood about six feet tall, had a thin but built frame, formed from his rolling calendar of upcoming triathlons. We frequently rode recumbent bikes next to each other, that was where the majority of our interactions took place, half-winded conversations about our relative status quos. Sco