Here are the four reasons why: It was an absolutely lovely evening by all accounts. My date was handsome, kind, thoughtful, and the complete opposite of my narcissistic ex. He made me feel safe and comfortable in a way that felt foreign to me. After the date ended we said goodbye and he texted me an hour after I got home to say that he couldn’t wait to see me again. I sat down on the couch, took a deep breath, and burst into heaving sobs. Why did I feel absolutely miserable?
Cheating on a partner is not something many people readily admit to, so it’s near-impossible to put any exact figures on the issue. One study might definitively say it happens in 70 percent of all marriages, while an independent expert could suggest it happens in anywhere from 20 to 60 percent of relationships. However, while (again) the percentages vary wildly, there is one common theme running through all of these statistics: men tend to cheat more than women. Professor Ali
Some red flags dudes may see that you don’t. I’ve often heard the phrase, “It’s so hard to meet guys.” Or similar sentiments from my lovelorn friends. Yet there are so many people looking for love in the same city, town, or small English hamlet. So from where does this belief that it is impossible to meet anyone in the real world arise? Have you ever felt the same way? Sorry to break it to you, but you are mostly likely part of the problem. Without meaning to you’ve sabotaged
Because once you fall in, it’s hard to get out. Wouldn’t it be great if relationships got easier? If, once the sizzle subsided, we just boarded a luxury train that took us on a journey to Happy Ever After. Especially if they served cocktails. 🍹 We all know it doesn’t work that way — far, far from it. That beyond the sizzle is where the “fun” really starts, the terrain gets more challenging (or more boringly predictable) and our relationships truly test us. And sometimes the
We crossed paths frequently in a small, shared gym in a sprawling office building.
Scott was a 37-year-old architect. He was cute, with pronounced, proportional, masculine facial features. He stood about six feet tall, had a thin but built frame, formed from his rolling calendar of upcoming triathlons. We frequently rode recumbent bikes next to each other, that was where the majority of our interactions took place, half-winded conversations about our relative status quos. Sco
We all know the answer 😉 As someone who has had experience in being cheated on and has saw countless of her friends gone through the same thing, my mind wondered to the question: “Are men or women more likely to cheat?”I recently got in touch with a very handy and interesting website that can provide a private investigation on husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, significant other, etc., called Buzz Humble. According to the founder of the company, they have received ove
Et oui, yellow flag are a thing too!!!! Beware! You’ve started a new relationship, everything is perfect. Your partner is caring, wants to spend time with you, covers you with thoughtful gifts. This is the right one, you’re thinking to yourself. Finally! No more dating apps, no more awkward first dates, you found it. Fast forward to a year later. You’re on your bed crying and feeding exclusively on Hot Cheetos for the past week. You’ve got orange-tinted mouth corners, and you
The seemingly elusive art of meeting people IRL. My current partner and I met in this crazy way. Most people our age are baffled when I let them know that I actually met my boyfriend using a pretty old school method: in person. I’m not hating on dating apps. I’ve used every popular one there is out there: Tinder, Bumble, CMB, Hinge, etc. While dating apps are becoming more and more accepted by people as a way to meet a romantic partner, they can be intimidating. It’s hard to
When swiping through curated photos, filtered selfies, and expertly crafted profiles becomes more chore than cheer, you may want to consider alternatives to online dating apps. “As much as I embrace technology, there’s nothing better than meeting someone in real life. Chemistry can tell chapters beyond a dating profile,” says relationship expert and matchmaker Destin Pfaff, who along with his wife Rachel Federoff, founded Love and Matchmaking. But in an era where dating apps
Some people make a bigger impact in your life than you’d like to admit. You don’t even understand how it happened. It was supposed to be casual, a fling. Nothing of importance. But your feelings for this person developed on their own, without permission. Before you knew it, you were pinning for them. They showed up, won you over, and now they’re done — but you’ve been unable to quit. You would never have allowed something like this to happen if you had been paying attention,
“Red flags are moments of hesitation that determine our destination.” ― Mandy Hale It’s easy to spot red flags in hindsight.
People who’ve been in a toxic relationship nearly always say the warning signs were there from the start. But if they felt uneasy about some of their partner’s behaviours, they let them go. They were in love, after all. And they had no idea those behaviours were a sign of where the relationship was heading. It’s only when you’re on the other side of a t
I spent a long time avoiding one-night stands. They made me feel uncomfortable in a way that was difficult to describe. In the end, I figured the uneasiness just came with the territory of being a hopeless romantic. It turns out, it wasn't about romance. I'm actually quite okay with sleeping with someone I don't love. The reason why I always refused to go home with relative strangers was a different one entirely: I didn’t like the way they treated me. I thought one night stan
Because they know what you’re worth to them... Are you a loving partner? We all like to think we’re on the money with this one. But the truth is most of us fall into the “could do better” category. Perfect doesn’t exist inside relationships — so that’s not the goal. The goal is to be as loving and supportive as you can, and to make an honest contribution to your relationship. Obviously, that’s easier said than done. But the very first step is to rule out the things that will
You have to pass a test before you can drive by yourself, but they’ll let almost anyone sign up for Tinder. That doesn’t mean they should. Some people just aren’t ready yet. They need more practice in how to treat other human beings, and maybe a manual. Even the best relationships put you through all kinds of gauntlets. You have to make sacrifices, and learn how to lose an argument every now and then. You have to be willing to change. It’s a lot, and not everyone’s up for the
It’s a bigger reflection of their personality, instead of yours. Earlier this year, I was texting an amazing girl and talking every day until the early hours of the morning. But all of a sudden, she stopped messaging back, and I was left wondering what I could’ve done wrong. Questions plagued my mind as I tried to figure out what turned her into a ghost. But while listening to an audiobook during a walk down the beach, I heard the following quote from Marcus Aurelius, which c
Even in an era when the majority of couples have sex before marriage, there’s still an allure around the wedding night. Brides pick out expensive lingerie, hotels offer luxurious wedding suites, and friends tease the newlyweds about consummating the marriage. Traditionally, couples are often so exhausted by the wedding that they may be too tired to have sex that night. (Wedding guests, on the other hand, are another story.) Lingerie company Bluebella surveyed 1,000 married co
Because most of “the signs” they tell you are garbage If you try to Google “how to know you’re in love,” you’re gonna have a bad time It also doesn’t involve fear of “never being with another woman.” I don’t even know what that is. Low self-esteem? Lack of conviction? Here’s a small sampling: “They’re always on your mind” This is infatuation. If someone’s “always” on your mind, you’re not focused on other Really Important Things and that’s a problem. Real love fits into real
As per World Health Organisation (WHO), “every 40 seconds, someone loses their life to suicide.” Yet, it largely remains amiss from mainstream discussions. This 10th September is observed as World Suicide Prevention Day. As per World Health Organisation (WHO), “every 40 seconds, someone loses their life to suicide.” Yet, it largely remains amiss from mainstream discussions. A two-pronged approach, of listening and seeking help, needs to be adapted to overcome mental illnesses
Finding the right person, especially in today’s modern dating world, is pretty fucking difficult. With so many potential matches right at our literal fingertips, it’s easy to become both overwhelmed by the number of choices and underwhelmed by the lack of connection between swipes. Now, I know this is not a new thought and that I’m not saying anything original here. Dating apps, as well as modern dating, have both been widely researched, reported on, and discussed. The times
New dating data is making a case for the bemoaned “blind date.” People who believe they have a “type” are fooling themselves, according to social psychology researchers who say that singles “might as well let a stranger pick their dates.” This is because most people are looking for more general positive qualities in a love interest, such as “kind” and “intelligent” personalities, the researchers from the University of California, Davis, write. These qualities could be present