Sometimes, love can exist more in our heads than our hearts. The truth is that we can fall for someone’s potential as easily as we can for their reality, but that feeling isn’t really love; it’s attachment, projection, and hope. Ultimately, you cannot be in a relationship with an idea of someone, and this is how to tell if you’re confusing who you would like them to be with who they really are. 1. You’re more in love when you’re apart. If your relationship does better (or, le
Some people make a bigger impact in your life than you’d like to admit. You don’t even understand how it happened. It was supposed to be casual, a fling. Nothing of importance. But your feelings for this person developed on their own, without permission. Before you knew it, you were pinning for them. They showed up, won you over, and now they’re done — but you’ve been unable to quit. You would never have allowed something like this to happen if you had been paying attention,
“Red flags are moments of hesitation that determine our destination.” ― Mandy Hale It’s easy to spot red flags in hindsight.
People who’ve been in a toxic relationship nearly always say the warning signs were there from the start. But if they felt uneasy about some of their partner’s behaviours, they let them go. They were in love, after all. And they had no idea those behaviours were a sign of where the relationship was heading. It’s only when you’re on the other side of a t
I spent a long time avoiding one-night stands. They made me feel uncomfortable in a way that was difficult to describe. In the end, I figured the uneasiness just came with the territory of being a hopeless romantic. It turns out, it wasn't about romance. I'm actually quite okay with sleeping with someone I don't love. The reason why I always refused to go home with relative strangers was a different one entirely: I didn’t like the way they treated me. I thought one night stan
Because they know what you’re worth to them... Are you a loving partner? We all like to think we’re on the money with this one. But the truth is most of us fall into the “could do better” category. Perfect doesn’t exist inside relationships — so that’s not the goal. The goal is to be as loving and supportive as you can, and to make an honest contribution to your relationship. Obviously, that’s easier said than done. But the very first step is to rule out the things that will
AND IT IS NOT QUITEE LIKE IN THE MOVIES! Books and movies have long perpetuated the idea that there’s this one single person who’s destined to be with you forever. This idea doesn’t always seem very realistic and the concept of soulmates can be a polarizing one, especially because everyone has its own definition. But if you have a not-so-strict definition of the term soulmate — someone who you know instinctively, who gives you a sense of peace yet allows you to grow as a pers