Some people make a bigger impact in your life than you’d like to admit. You don’t even understand how it happened. It was supposed to be casual, a fling. Nothing of importance. But your feelings for this person developed on their own, without permission. Before you knew it, you were pinning for them. They showed up, won you over, and now they’re done — but you’ve been unable to quit. You would never have allowed something like this to happen if you had been paying attention,
“Red flags are moments of hesitation that determine our destination.” ― Mandy Hale It’s easy to spot red flags in hindsight.
People who’ve been in a toxic relationship nearly always say the warning signs were there from the start. But if they felt uneasy about some of their partner’s behaviours, they let them go. They were in love, after all. And they had no idea those behaviours were a sign of where the relationship was heading. It’s only when you’re on the other side of a t
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Your time — and your feelings — have value. You haven’t known each other very long, but you’ve been going out, and it’s been fun. You’re getting excited about this guy, perhaps you’re developing feelings for him already. But should you? Should you let yourself become emotionally invested in him? It might not be too early to tell, especially if you pay attention to the signs. I know these signs well because I’ve seen them up close. I’ve lived through them, and I understand how